I haven't written much about myfamily or about myself here. since i know .,hardly anyne is interested in reading about my own history. but something is there which is worth mentioning. one such factor was we mallans( our surname) r very attached to each other,. i mean we 5 children and their children. which i beleive is the greatest asset of we mallans. which really play as a booster in times of adversity, since I lost my parents at a very early age iwas looked after by my brothers and their children were so dear to us. we all grew together like onefamily theywere more attached to us than totheir parents. we loved them like abything. we never expected that one day thse children will return their lvoe in many folds. In this selfish world you cant even expect from your own children it is a rare fortune to get it from the neice and nephew. Iwas one among th luckiest who really had the great oppertunity to get it from my nephew and niece. they really were with me still r with me, to support me . so Thnks to God for giving such good chidlren in ourfamily so that we can pass on such culture to our chidlren. they accepted whoever came new to our family like my husband they accepted him whole heartedly and showered their love to him. though he is bit stingy in showing lvoe i mean expressions but has it in his heart. we also loved their spouses. so is the binding in our family. we never have the poision of jealousy we always wish good toeachother and happy in their growth. i can say iam one step ahead in getting love even from the sistrs in law who love me like anything. and i reciprocate it . pray to God any evil eye , pleas e ward it off, before it falls on us. so here iam going towrite soemthing about such a nephew . these r my own words he may or may not fit into this. but since they r our children i feel i have evey right to write about them . beze they know we never wish any bad for them.
You r a fathomless mystery
came to mallan family as a morning star
we sang the song of joywhen you first came as ababy
we hahd a fight to pamper you
now you r grwon up and you r abook of fathomless mystery
but we try my not be in vein todescribe you,
you r a book full of fictions and humours and lvoe
the simple book iswritten with the ink of love
the pages r crytal clear cover is plain and simple
we bind the book not with the glue of the tube but with the love
beze the book touches the heart of the reader
and heart knows only one language the language of lvoe
you never used the logic of the brain to wirte the book
but icant understand why you left some pages blank. oh i forgot it isnot blank it is written withthesame coulr ink so thatno on ca read it other than you
tough the book is simple even the wisest of the wisest cant read it, but a child with love can read and understand.
all the + and - are there in you, soyour a fine blend of both
but you no how to tactfully balnce and manage you -ses
for the mallns and their children your the king figure and your dear sister
is thequeen both of you knowhow to rule the mallsninto good things
you both make themallns la ugh and climb the uphill, tire out , sweat,
but the end . you make them stronger than before.
You r a person dont mind disturbing others , if you want them. but sacrifice anything if they want you,
you r a Big brother to all mallns children a figure to be observed and followed
you r a fine blend of innocence and cunning .
since the main ingredient is love your bad can be forseen or overlooked.
i find it difficult to put you in words, beze your simple
but a fathomless mystery
your r good boss to your subordinates, you know
how to get things done by them.
you knowwhat to do when things starts slipping from yourhands or
some gap forms . you knowhow to fill it with your own way of handling
you r mallan product know how to tackle children and how to
to rise the sagging spirit of the nmalln s with your magic spell, beze
you r a person who doesnt like commotion and confusion in the family
you r not a wolf in the clothings of the sheep.,rather
a sheep or a lamb in the wolfs clothing, why beze
peole think that you r very tough and rude
but thefact is that you can be twisted around the little finger
just with a drop of love and care
beze your a slave of love andcare
a lamb can be tamed without a stick , just with a loud voice
so is you.
you r the 7 swaras of mallans instrument
want to give the best melody
we know that you r bit stingy but can be forgiven and forgotten
since you r + s out shine your -ves.
your a simple book of love and care and evryone
wantns to keep it in their shelf of heart but fear a lot
let not the silverfish of greed and selfishness eat you hope and pray
never evr the selfish world or the increasing bank balance change you
if at all change you for the betterment of evryone,
beze you are a book hard to be lost or cant afford to be lost
let not the outside polluted weather touch you and make you dirty
let not the grwoing age make you selfish, beze you r a book of love with a difference.
which all mallns want to decorate their bookshelf with you.
Let God bless you and give you strength enough to face the channlenges and
sense enoughto tackle them successfuly.
******* ******* ******** *********
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Monday, January 19, 2009
ANGER ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER
ANGER ONE LETTR SHORT OF DANGER
What is anger my definitin is the worst - emotion which makes us blind, which makes us take wrong decisons, which make us
pour allour frustration and disappointment to the other. what not it makes people to do ,kill the other. Can anything be as danegerous as anger.
but how many of us think tht it is so dnagerous. none of us.
just a self anlysis willtellus many a times we get frustrated of many othr things and we simply pour or spring on ouur beloved ones,. some to their chidlren some to their parents and some
to even their husbands, provided their husbands r patient enough.
just see scientifically what happens when we get anmgry. we need 14 muscles to smali but to frown we need 72. our body becmoes a chemical lab. the danegerous hormone is produced by the body which kills the harmony of the body. we strain our muscles. Bad news for shortempered ladies. you gt wrinkles fast. every time youget angry youstrain yourmuscles,. i mean the facial muscles one crease is formed
sometimes our furious outbursts come as blasts,snaps we lash out we smash and throw awaythings. we scold or shower whatever we get .our bodies stiffing until we stop. another kind of anger is silent it is within. bottling up rage inside is more dangerious. on going suppressessd rage is the basis of manyillness as hyper tension,. strokeks, migraine,back pain etc.
There is aniother kidof anger internalised anger it is the deadliest form of angr that is
directd towards us. feeling of resentment , frustrationand self=loathing are created whe we live inenviornment thatrepeatedly telluas we are bad wrong no good etc. . chidlrennshoud nevr feel that they r bad, good for nothing . reopeated feeling of this willmake them vulnerable and they develp comples and they develop akin dof shortemper..It should be counter balannend by constructive thoughts and cmmnets.. sjust imagine wwhat allwordswe use when we gt anger .
all the bad words killing words come to out tongue we use it liberally. never thinking whaht the othr person feel. we feel tht we rperfect. hwen we normally get angry whenthe other person dosnt act according to our expectations, or we get disppointment. so we just bale many a times others for our own faults.nevr thinkinghow it affects the othr person. wht is going on intheir mind,. dont they have any individuality. do we rise uto others exoectation everytime. dont we do mistake.
is it necesaary to show our frastration through anger only is there no way out? you can ask youself 100 questions before get angry.
a small remedy when next time yougt angry count 1 to 10by the timeyu reach 10 you r angr musthave reduced. good idea?alwlays remebr anger is a poision it kills the vessel it carrys.any body can get angry with anyone. but showing integrity patience is a tough job only people with strong mind can do. so decide wheter you r a fickle minded one so fragile? or a strong minded one.do youwant to become the victim of anger or do you want to make it a victim. decision is yours.
What is anger my definitin is the worst - emotion which makes us blind, which makes us take wrong decisons, which make us
pour allour frustration and disappointment to the other. what not it makes people to do ,kill the other. Can anything be as danegerous as anger.
but how many of us think tht it is so dnagerous. none of us.
just a self anlysis willtellus many a times we get frustrated of many othr things and we simply pour or spring on ouur beloved ones,. some to their chidlren some to their parents and some
to even their husbands, provided their husbands r patient enough.
just see scientifically what happens when we get anmgry. we need 14 muscles to smali but to frown we need 72. our body becmoes a chemical lab. the danegerous hormone is produced by the body which kills the harmony of the body. we strain our muscles. Bad news for shortempered ladies. you gt wrinkles fast. every time youget angry youstrain yourmuscles,. i mean the facial muscles one crease is formed
sometimes our furious outbursts come as blasts,snaps we lash out we smash and throw awaythings. we scold or shower whatever we get .our bodies stiffing until we stop. another kind of anger is silent it is within. bottling up rage inside is more dangerious. on going suppressessd rage is the basis of manyillness as hyper tension,. strokeks, migraine,back pain etc.
There is aniother kidof anger internalised anger it is the deadliest form of angr that is
directd towards us. feeling of resentment , frustrationand self=loathing are created whe we live inenviornment thatrepeatedly telluas we are bad wrong no good etc. . chidlrennshoud nevr feel that they r bad, good for nothing . reopeated feeling of this willmake them vulnerable and they develp comples and they develop akin dof shortemper..It should be counter balannend by constructive thoughts and cmmnets.. sjust imagine wwhat allwordswe use when we gt anger .
all the bad words killing words come to out tongue we use it liberally. never thinking whaht the othr person feel. we feel tht we rperfect. hwen we normally get angry whenthe other person dosnt act according to our expectations, or we get disppointment. so we just bale many a times others for our own faults.nevr thinkinghow it affects the othr person. wht is going on intheir mind,. dont they have any individuality. do we rise uto others exoectation everytime. dont we do mistake.
is it necesaary to show our frastration through anger only is there no way out? you can ask youself 100 questions before get angry.
a small remedy when next time yougt angry count 1 to 10by the timeyu reach 10 you r angr musthave reduced. good idea?alwlays remebr anger is a poision it kills the vessel it carrys.any body can get angry with anyone. but showing integrity patience is a tough job only people with strong mind can do. so decide wheter you r a fickle minded one so fragile? or a strong minded one.do youwant to become the victim of anger or do you want to make it a victim. decision is yours.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
ways to eradicate the killing fears
Fear the killing fear youcome unwanted
you make the shadow a ghost,you
make thecoir a snake,
and you make a mole hill a mountain..,
your like a magnifying glass show the
bad things much larger than they actually r.
Why do we fear ? we are too accustomed to our present situation and habitis that any thought of changingthem or anychange in our dear ones cannot be toleratd by us. so we fear a lot. Healthy fear is good it makes us plan for our future and keep us disciplined in many things,. but when it crosses all limits it becomes, unhalthy. and tht is dangerous.which is called a disease or phobia. Indecison crystalizes into doubts the two belnd and become fear. If you see a tiger andfear thatisfear. but you dont see a tiger and still freightened then it is anxiety. healthyfear make youcautious and you plan. but unhealthy fear makes you paralyzed and drain your +ve energy.
Lack of faith also leads to fear. To work on fear we should 1st know its origin ,nature, and the place of abode.
There are 6 basic fears. Fear of poverty, criticism, illhealth, loss of love of someone, oldage, and fear of death. It is nothing more thanthestate of mind. and it is subjectot control. If we work o n it evry human being can control his own mind. A state of mind is somthing that one assumes. It is created Fear paralyses and destroys faculty of imagination, creativity kills self reliancne undermines enthusiasm, leads to uncertainty of purpose encourages procrastination self/ control becmoes impossibility somepeople just creates and imagine worst situations for them and their fear. Heart beats rises , palpitaionand body becomes a chemical lab. It destroys the possibility of accurate thinking, will power becmoes zero. leads to sleeplessness and misery and unhappiness.
How to fight. cross examine yourself you know more about youself.Be impartial in self examination. If asked people say " I fear nothing" few people realize that they are handicapped spritualy, enmotionly& one may spend whole life without knowing its presence. only a self analysis will help us to detect this unique enemy.
Worrying habit, in ability to take a firm decison, lack of self conscious ,over cautious the habit of looking for . side of everything always.
Fear of ill health breakdown natural body resisitence and creates favourable condition for any form of disease one can imagine . make susceptable for that,. Fear of losing love or loved ones is the most painful one. It plays havoc with the body and mind,. than any other fear. Jealousy possessiveness suspecion, fault finding et etc are the symptoms. Whip the fear of poverty by taking a decison oto get along with whatever we can accumulate.and to accpet whateveron the way tomcome.
Fear of crticism put your foot firmly on theneck of fear of criticism by reaching a decion : Not to worry" about whatothers think oooor feelsboutyou GFear of uill halth by reaching a decion of self sffirmation,. if iworry i willgetmore disease binghappy will free from disease and iamginina ahealthy you whever annnnnnd whereve [ppssoble.
fear of old age tellyourself andfeel thatyour always young. fear of losing loved one. no one iseternal. dont Binding is an illusiion we aall r gods children we have to pray God to keepeeryone in tact.
'
too uch fear willenup in worrying habit abnd willlead to stress. 75% of the people who visits physicians are suffereing from hypo chondria( imaginanry Disease) The fear of disease ,even where there isnot a slighterst cause of disease , often produces thephysical symptoms of the disease. your mind creates it,. artificially.
The seed of fear of illhealth lives in every human mind, worry fear discouragement disappointment in love and business caue the seed tio germinate and grow in your mind.. so wehve nip it in the bud. before itcreates problem and becmoes a tree we hve to wipe itout. by installing faith faith in god faith in our own self etc. wehve to force ourmind to think +vely and neveraloow any fear crating thughts enter yourmind. we hve to free ourselves from the clutches of the fear.we have to read brave peoples history, how they survived odd situations. . How people wihout money health , have survided and marked their names in thepages of history How people with just mind powerlived years under stressed situations. when weread we will come to know we fearunnecessrily. we fear or not wht is on the wway to come will come anyway. then why fear and drain our +ve energy. fearless tomorrow is impossible we need littlefear to makeus more courageous. but fearfull tomorrow we dontwant.
you make the shadow a ghost,you
make thecoir a snake,
and you make a mole hill a mountain..,
your like a magnifying glass show the
bad things much larger than they actually r.
Why do we fear ? we are too accustomed to our present situation and habitis that any thought of changingthem or anychange in our dear ones cannot be toleratd by us. so we fear a lot. Healthy fear is good it makes us plan for our future and keep us disciplined in many things,. but when it crosses all limits it becomes, unhalthy. and tht is dangerous.which is called a disease or phobia. Indecison crystalizes into doubts the two belnd and become fear. If you see a tiger andfear thatisfear. but you dont see a tiger and still freightened then it is anxiety. healthyfear make youcautious and you plan. but unhealthy fear makes you paralyzed and drain your +ve energy.
Lack of faith also leads to fear. To work on fear we should 1st know its origin ,nature, and the place of abode.
There are 6 basic fears. Fear of poverty, criticism, illhealth, loss of love of someone, oldage, and fear of death. It is nothing more thanthestate of mind. and it is subjectot control. If we work o n it evry human being can control his own mind. A state of mind is somthing that one assumes. It is created Fear paralyses and destroys faculty of imagination, creativity kills self reliancne undermines enthusiasm, leads to uncertainty of purpose encourages procrastination self/ control becmoes impossibility somepeople just creates and imagine worst situations for them and their fear. Heart beats rises , palpitaionand body becomes a chemical lab. It destroys the possibility of accurate thinking, will power becmoes zero. leads to sleeplessness and misery and unhappiness.
How to fight. cross examine yourself you know more about youself.Be impartial in self examination. If asked people say " I fear nothing" few people realize that they are handicapped spritualy, enmotionly& one may spend whole life without knowing its presence. only a self analysis will help us to detect this unique enemy.
Worrying habit, in ability to take a firm decison, lack of self conscious ,over cautious the habit of looking for . side of everything always.
Fear of ill health breakdown natural body resisitence and creates favourable condition for any form of disease one can imagine . make susceptable for that,. Fear of losing love or loved ones is the most painful one. It plays havoc with the body and mind,. than any other fear. Jealousy possessiveness suspecion, fault finding et etc are the symptoms. Whip the fear of poverty by taking a decison oto get along with whatever we can accumulate.and to accpet whateveron the way tomcome.
Fear of crticism put your foot firmly on theneck of fear of criticism by reaching a decion : Not to worry" about whatothers think oooor feelsboutyou GFear of uill halth by reaching a decion of self sffirmation,. if iworry i willgetmore disease binghappy will free from disease and iamginina ahealthy you whever annnnnnd whereve [ppssoble.
fear of old age tellyourself andfeel thatyour always young. fear of losing loved one. no one iseternal. dont Binding is an illusiion we aall r gods children we have to pray God to keepeeryone in tact.
'
too uch fear willenup in worrying habit abnd willlead to stress. 75% of the people who visits physicians are suffereing from hypo chondria( imaginanry Disease) The fear of disease ,even where there isnot a slighterst cause of disease , often produces thephysical symptoms of the disease. your mind creates it,. artificially.
The seed of fear of illhealth lives in every human mind, worry fear discouragement disappointment in love and business caue the seed tio germinate and grow in your mind.. so wehve nip it in the bud. before itcreates problem and becmoes a tree we hve to wipe itout. by installing faith faith in god faith in our own self etc. wehve to force ourmind to think +vely and neveraloow any fear crating thughts enter yourmind. we hve to free ourselves from the clutches of the fear.we have to read brave peoples history, how they survived odd situations. . How people wihout money health , have survided and marked their names in thepages of history How people with just mind powerlived years under stressed situations. when weread we will come to know we fearunnecessrily. we fear or not wht is on the wway to come will come anyway. then why fear and drain our +ve energy. fearless tomorrow is impossible we need littlefear to makeus more courageous. but fearfull tomorrow we dontwant.
Monday, January 12, 2009
One step more towards perfection
why women suffer alot ? why some womeen spend their entire life nagging? blamingothers for their fate these r the questions i always ask myself when i see such kind of wome.n In my life fortunately ihad the oppertunity to interact with all sorts of women high, law, reputed, prefessionalist, high society ladies , writers the list goes on. In a short span of 10 years i hve met diffrent tyes of peole and interactd withthem and leanrt a lot of things fromthem. This allhelped me to judge people fast.. I hvhe seen many women despite their qualities and high standard leads alife of agony and self pity. my analysis ended with somesolotuions and i have read a lots of books on this regard what can be doneto improve the quality of life. of course quantity is not in ourhands. duration is not imporantant donation is important. WOMAN THE GREATEST CREATION OF GOD
SUCH A BEAUTIFUL ONE
WHO IS THE MOTHER OF MANKIND
WHO IS FRAGRANCE OF THE FLOWER OF LIFE,
WHO IS THE SPRING OF LIFE.
BUT SUFFERES LIKE ANYTHING
WHO TEACHES THE MAN THE FIRST WORD,
WHO TEACHES THE MAN FIRST STEP
WHO TEACHES HIM HOW TO LOVE
WHO TEACHES HIMHOW TO STAND OF HIS OWN
WHO IS HIS FIRST TEACHER, GUIDE, MENTOR AND WORLD
BUT WHY SHE SUFFERS WHY SHE IS PAIN ?
wHY SHE FEELS HER DREAMS ARE SMASHED?
You can define a woa\man as giver she give a lot than takes from you She born as daughter grow as somebodys asset, beze from child hood she is trAined to be lived with other person or other familys .,as if she is given to her parents to be lookkd after for few years s, till she is capable of taking responsibilty of the family the man . so shestart getting the training from the v ery childhood. though she was given good food , good education it is all to make her capable of looking after the family she is going to be. she also start weaving her dreams about her would be .but fantssy ends the moment reality takes place. something somewhere goes wrong why? The first step towards making our life more fruitful more perfect is to take the responsibity to our owns elf for whatevr we r today than anybody else. that is veryveryimportant the moment we stop blamingothers for whatever we r today , our journey towards perfection starts. self analysis be your own critic ask yourself what r yourstrengths. what are your weaknesses. do i think from the ther persons point? does the other person alsohave somedreams about me?
It is very important to understand that its our views our attitudes our outlooks creates the Big Difference. I tis not what happens to us is very important what we do with what happnes to us is very important. .slight change in our attitude goes a longway in making our life more fruitful.
Those woman who thinks that theydont hve anycapabilty make a list of things which they r good at, r you a good cook, good wife, goodsinger something is there which you r good at. appreciate yourself for that. there is a great potentioal within you undevelped,resources that you have not tapped yet. My niece who was just an average student suddenly started writng good articles,which she never used during her studies. now after marriage sherealises that she has good potential. this is just an example.
just anlyse what kindof thoughts you r carrying daily whther most of the time thoughts of fear disappointment or encouragnng +ve thoughts . watch for few days and write it down. and change theway you think. just for few days you start practicing no complaints day observe it, see the miraculous changes you r going to get. slowly analyse what makes you happy do it ask yourself whter your a good wife. the man comes home after office devastated, dranied of all his +ve enrgy do you nag then ,or doyou charge him with your tea and a loving warm smile. if not do it. men are not as expressionable as we r. he wants to talk about ideas, or p olitics or job . women want to speak about feelings, love emotions etcc. so we cant expect them to talk always our favourites. so dont compel. make the home a place for peace rest and restaurant for your husband to feel at ease., than making him run way from there. home is his castle where he is the king that is his feelings. nagging him over trivial issues will make him run away from the castle and look for shelter somewhere else. we cant blame them. when he feels at ease he willmake sure you are at peace. what makes you happy try todo it. accept yourself as yo are. . dont give self pity to you.rather give respect to you.lots of our todays character formation was done due to our previous experince so think deep anyprevious experince or your previous life disturbns you then remove those thoughts from you. we cannot change the wind but we can change our route. we have multiple duties we have duties of a wife, mothr, and as an individual we have duties towards the humanity.. A lady has the power to lift her family spirit or bring it down to rock bottom. write down your feeling about life, what makes you happy and what r yuour worries,. writing down means you r opening up , your oepning up means your worries and dremas r exposd so you can very well get a solution. it willhelp you to evaluate where you are exactly heading . make a list of your strengths as well as weaknesses. develop thestrengths and work on your weaknesses by setting goals, you can achieve antying by setting goals and workingon it. let it be your own behaviour, see the changeeds of yourman to you, your onestep ahead will make him put 2 steps towards you. you can be better than you have thought you were. set your personal goals as a mother, wife, andeven as a daughter in law. break them into small and work on it. oneday spent without - ve thoughts nagging is well enough to make you spend another few days. thus slowly you you r putting steps towards perfetion., a total woman,.dont forget a AWOMAN HAS A MAN IN IT. A LADY HAS A LAD IN IT. that means woman is always a part of man or man is a part of woman.. try and work it nmay not happen in one day it is a process slow but steady process for a better life,. a bright tomorrow more peaceful life and worthy living it. by giving we enrich our lives as well as others.. there is always two choices do you want to live your entire life in dispoointment, resentment, or do you want to live in peace and happiness and contentment. choice is yours. The journey from where your today and whre you want to be is abit tough but not impossible. Just remove the cloud from you and let the bright light of the sun fall on you .
SUCH A BEAUTIFUL ONE
WHO IS THE MOTHER OF MANKIND
WHO IS FRAGRANCE OF THE FLOWER OF LIFE,
WHO IS THE SPRING OF LIFE.
BUT SUFFERES LIKE ANYTHING
WHO TEACHES THE MAN THE FIRST WORD,
WHO TEACHES THE MAN FIRST STEP
WHO TEACHES HIM HOW TO LOVE
WHO TEACHES HIMHOW TO STAND OF HIS OWN
WHO IS HIS FIRST TEACHER, GUIDE, MENTOR AND WORLD
BUT WHY SHE SUFFERS WHY SHE IS PAIN ?
wHY SHE FEELS HER DREAMS ARE SMASHED?
You can define a woa\man as giver she give a lot than takes from you She born as daughter grow as somebodys asset, beze from child hood she is trAined to be lived with other person or other familys .,as if she is given to her parents to be lookkd after for few years s, till she is capable of taking responsibilty of the family the man . so shestart getting the training from the v ery childhood. though she was given good food , good education it is all to make her capable of looking after the family she is going to be. she also start weaving her dreams about her would be .but fantssy ends the moment reality takes place. something somewhere goes wrong why? The first step towards making our life more fruitful more perfect is to take the responsibity to our owns elf for whatevr we r today than anybody else. that is veryveryimportant the moment we stop blamingothers for whatever we r today , our journey towards perfection starts. self analysis be your own critic ask yourself what r yourstrengths. what are your weaknesses. do i think from the ther persons point? does the other person alsohave somedreams about me?
It is very important to understand that its our views our attitudes our outlooks creates the Big Difference. I tis not what happens to us is very important what we do with what happnes to us is very important. .slight change in our attitude goes a longway in making our life more fruitful.
Those woman who thinks that theydont hve anycapabilty make a list of things which they r good at, r you a good cook, good wife, goodsinger something is there which you r good at. appreciate yourself for that. there is a great potentioal within you undevelped,resources that you have not tapped yet. My niece who was just an average student suddenly started writng good articles,which she never used during her studies. now after marriage sherealises that she has good potential. this is just an example.
just anlyse what kindof thoughts you r carrying daily whther most of the time thoughts of fear disappointment or encouragnng +ve thoughts . watch for few days and write it down. and change theway you think. just for few days you start practicing no complaints day observe it, see the miraculous changes you r going to get. slowly analyse what makes you happy do it ask yourself whter your a good wife. the man comes home after office devastated, dranied of all his +ve enrgy do you nag then ,or doyou charge him with your tea and a loving warm smile. if not do it. men are not as expressionable as we r. he wants to talk about ideas, or p olitics or job . women want to speak about feelings, love emotions etcc. so we cant expect them to talk always our favourites. so dont compel. make the home a place for peace rest and restaurant for your husband to feel at ease., than making him run way from there. home is his castle where he is the king that is his feelings. nagging him over trivial issues will make him run away from the castle and look for shelter somewhere else. we cant blame them. when he feels at ease he willmake sure you are at peace. what makes you happy try todo it. accept yourself as yo are. . dont give self pity to you.rather give respect to you.lots of our todays character formation was done due to our previous experince so think deep anyprevious experince or your previous life disturbns you then remove those thoughts from you. we cannot change the wind but we can change our route. we have multiple duties we have duties of a wife, mothr, and as an individual we have duties towards the humanity.. A lady has the power to lift her family spirit or bring it down to rock bottom. write down your feeling about life, what makes you happy and what r yuour worries,. writing down means you r opening up , your oepning up means your worries and dremas r exposd so you can very well get a solution. it willhelp you to evaluate where you are exactly heading . make a list of your strengths as well as weaknesses. develop thestrengths and work on your weaknesses by setting goals, you can achieve antying by setting goals and workingon it. let it be your own behaviour, see the changeeds of yourman to you, your onestep ahead will make him put 2 steps towards you. you can be better than you have thought you were. set your personal goals as a mother, wife, andeven as a daughter in law. break them into small and work on it. oneday spent without - ve thoughts nagging is well enough to make you spend another few days. thus slowly you you r putting steps towards perfetion., a total woman,.dont forget a AWOMAN HAS A MAN IN IT. A LADY HAS A LAD IN IT. that means woman is always a part of man or man is a part of woman.. try and work it nmay not happen in one day it is a process slow but steady process for a better life,. a bright tomorrow more peaceful life and worthy living it. by giving we enrich our lives as well as others.. there is always two choices do you want to live your entire life in dispoointment, resentment, or do you want to live in peace and happiness and contentment. choice is yours. The journey from where your today and whre you want to be is abit tough but not impossible. Just remove the cloud from you and let the bright light of the sun fall on you .
Monday, January 5, 2009
Can money Buy everything ?
Can money buy everything.? "No" is the answer by the wise man and" yes "is the answer by the fool. You can look around can see so many people who just live to make money, they behave as if God has sent them to make money. There r people who make money by crushing others under their foot. they build a fortune by stamping on others shoulders.Money is a good thing money making is a good thing. but to make money by anymeans and too much love to money creates all the problmes. I have read in books so manysuccessful people busniessmen , actors, professionalists , spent mostof thier time making mney and were after name andfame. and ,dont read their climax or the end. It was tragic. mostof them died as bankrupt or committed suicide due disaapointments etc.etc. why? beze they were so engrossed in mmaking money they forget the value of life.whoever forgets the value of life the objective of life, the mother nature teaches them the lesson . that is the order of the nature. nobodycan escape from that./there is a benchmark for evrything , some yardstick..
We hae seen brothers killing brothers, children killing parents , wife killing husband etc etc. all for money. Do you think aftr getting the socalled money will they live in peace? No.
Have younoticed those who earn money by any illegal means,govt officials as bribe, sales tax people, the excise people,. the politicians,all curropted people, you can see them anywhere . the HUNGRY WOLF . have you noticed their children get spoilled and blow off the money they have earned by thieR HARD WORK . why ifyou get anybodys curse the money you earn will not be enjoyed by you properly.Either your children willmisuse it or you gt all the stylish diseases like Bp. Cholestrol, and sugar so tht you cannot take salt .sugar, or fat. then wwhat will you eat vegetables and leaves like the animals...
so it isveryvery important tht we make money in the right way and even spend it the rightway.
Iam not a big hearted one who makes money and spend on chahrity i may do little charity . but i never make money against my conscious. i teach my chidlren who r very small cant understand but i just saw theseeds of good thoughts so that it grow along with them. dont never evr wish others wealth.Ipray God make my children good hmnan beings first then give me so much money. Yes i want to make money. but ussing my brain and hardwork..I would perfer ggod chilren and less money than croers of rupees and bad children..
How tragic it is to read in news papers drugs have been added in pickles and icecreams to be sold in smallpackets like hot cakes,. thattoo nearby shops of schools. How could they do this just for money they kill the future generation..How muchdamage they do to theyounger generation.Is this Kaliyugam..?. cly like things radded in baby food which affects the kidneys of the babies. how could one do this.
We forget those words which i read somewhere and echoing in my ears
MONEY CAN BUY BED BUT NOT SLEEP
MONEY CAN BUY MEDICINE BUT NOT HEALTH
MONEY CAN BUY HOUSE BUTNOT A AHOME
MONEYCAN BUY LUXURIES BUT NOT HAPPINESS
MONEY CAN BUY SERVANTS BUT NOT FRIENDS
MONEY CAN BUY GOODS BUT NOT PEACE
MONEYCAN BUYSTATUS BUT NOT N OBILIY
MONEY CAN BUY POSITINS BUT NOTGREATNESS
LAST MONEYCAN BUY MAN BUT NOT G O D .
wht does it show ultimately money can buy things but your deeds and heart will get you all the noble things.. if we do good , or atleast refrain from doing ba d, we feel great inside contended inside more wealtheir than the wealthiest. What eklse we want inlife,.loove, sanctity, happiness and peace of mindr rarethings which money cannot buy, but your good deeds can buy or get you.
what i really want to express here is money is good tooomuchlvoe to it is bad. and if we ould generte money by good means thatis the greatest asset. This is a self affirmation to myself nevr fall fior money.workhard, use your brain, physical strength and your capacity to makemoney in the right way.Hope and believe God will lead me to the right path .A Big Sorry if ihave hurt someone
We hae seen brothers killing brothers, children killing parents , wife killing husband etc etc. all for money. Do you think aftr getting the socalled money will they live in peace? No.
Have younoticed those who earn money by any illegal means,govt officials as bribe, sales tax people, the excise people,. the politicians,all curropted people, you can see them anywhere . the HUNGRY WOLF . have you noticed their children get spoilled and blow off the money they have earned by thieR HARD WORK . why ifyou get anybodys curse the money you earn will not be enjoyed by you properly.Either your children willmisuse it or you gt all the stylish diseases like Bp. Cholestrol, and sugar so tht you cannot take salt .sugar, or fat. then wwhat will you eat vegetables and leaves like the animals...
so it isveryvery important tht we make money in the right way and even spend it the rightway.
Iam not a big hearted one who makes money and spend on chahrity i may do little charity . but i never make money against my conscious. i teach my chidlren who r very small cant understand but i just saw theseeds of good thoughts so that it grow along with them. dont never evr wish others wealth.Ipray God make my children good hmnan beings first then give me so much money. Yes i want to make money. but ussing my brain and hardwork..I would perfer ggod chilren and less money than croers of rupees and bad children..
How tragic it is to read in news papers drugs have been added in pickles and icecreams to be sold in smallpackets like hot cakes,. thattoo nearby shops of schools. How could they do this just for money they kill the future generation..How muchdamage they do to theyounger generation.Is this Kaliyugam..?. cly like things radded in baby food which affects the kidneys of the babies. how could one do this.
We forget those words which i read somewhere and echoing in my ears
MONEY CAN BUY BED BUT NOT SLEEP
MONEY CAN BUY MEDICINE BUT NOT HEALTH
MONEY CAN BUY HOUSE BUTNOT A AHOME
MONEYCAN BUY LUXURIES BUT NOT HAPPINESS
MONEY CAN BUY SERVANTS BUT NOT FRIENDS
MONEY CAN BUY GOODS BUT NOT PEACE
MONEYCAN BUYSTATUS BUT NOT N OBILIY
MONEY CAN BUY POSITINS BUT NOTGREATNESS
LAST MONEYCAN BUY MAN BUT NOT G O D .
wht does it show ultimately money can buy things but your deeds and heart will get you all the noble things.. if we do good , or atleast refrain from doing ba d, we feel great inside contended inside more wealtheir than the wealthiest. What eklse we want inlife,.loove, sanctity, happiness and peace of mindr rarethings which money cannot buy, but your good deeds can buy or get you.
what i really want to express here is money is good tooomuchlvoe to it is bad. and if we ould generte money by good means thatis the greatest asset. This is a self affirmation to myself nevr fall fior money.workhard, use your brain, physical strength and your capacity to makemoney in the right way.Hope and believe God will lead me to the right path .A Big Sorry if ihave hurt someone
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