One step more towards perfection

why women suffer alot ? why some womeen spend their entire life nagging? blamingothers for their fate these r the questions i always ask myself when i see such kind of wome.n In my life fortunately ihad the oppertunity to interact with all sorts of women high, law, reputed, prefessionalist, high society ladies , writers the list goes on. In a short span of 10 years i hve met diffrent tyes of peole and interactd withthem and leanrt a lot of things fromthem. This allhelped me to judge people fast.. I hvhe seen many women despite their qualities and high standard leads alife of agony and self pity. my analysis ended with somesolotuions and i have read a lots of books on this regard what can be doneto improve the quality of life. of course quantity is not in ourhands. duration is not imporantant donation is important. WOMAN THE GREATEST CREATION OF GOD
SUCH A BEAUTIFUL ONE
WHO IS THE MOTHER OF MANKIND
WHO IS FRAGRANCE OF THE FLOWER OF LIFE,
WHO IS THE SPRING OF LIFE.
BUT SUFFERES LIKE ANYTHING
WHO TEACHES THE MAN THE FIRST WORD,
WHO TEACHES THE MAN FIRST STEP
WHO TEACHES HIM HOW TO LOVE
WHO TEACHES HIMHOW TO STAND OF HIS OWN
WHO IS HIS FIRST TEACHER, GUIDE, MENTOR AND WORLD
BUT WHY SHE SUFFERS WHY SHE IS PAIN ?
wHY SHE FEELS HER DREAMS ARE SMASHED?

You can define a woa\man as giver she give a lot than takes from you She born as daughter grow as somebodys asset, beze from child hood she is trAined to be lived with other person or other familys .,as if she is given to her parents to be lookkd after for few years s, till she is capable of taking responsibilty of the family the man . so shestart getting the training from the v ery childhood. though she was given good food , good education it is all to make her capable of looking after the family she is going to be. she also start weaving her dreams about her would be .but fantssy ends the moment reality takes place. something somewhere goes wrong why? The first step towards making our life more fruitful more perfect is to take the responsibity to our owns elf for whatevr we r today than anybody else. that is veryveryimportant the moment we stop blamingothers for whatever we r today , our journey towards perfection starts. self analysis be your own critic ask yourself what r yourstrengths. what are your weaknesses. do i think from the ther persons point? does the other person alsohave somedreams about me?
It is very important to understand that its our views our attitudes our outlooks creates the Big Difference. I tis not what happens to us is very important what we do with what happnes to us is very important. .slight change in our attitude goes a longway in making our life more fruitful.
Those woman who thinks that theydont hve anycapabilty make a list of things which they r good at, r you a good cook, good wife, goodsinger something is there which you r good at. appreciate yourself for that. there is a great potentioal within you undevelped,resources that you have not tapped yet. My niece who was just an average student suddenly started writng good articles,which she never used during her studies. now after marriage sherealises that she has good potential. this is just an example.
just anlyse what kindof thoughts you r carrying daily whther most of the time thoughts of fear disappointment or encouragnng +ve thoughts . watch for few days and write it down. and change theway you think. just for few days you start practicing no complaints day observe it, see the miraculous changes you r going to get. slowly analyse what makes you happy do it ask yourself whter your a good wife. the man comes home after office devastated, dranied of all his +ve enrgy do you nag then ,or doyou charge him with your tea and a loving warm smile. if not do it. men are not as expressionable as we r. he wants to talk about ideas, or p olitics or job . women want to speak about feelings, love emotions etcc. so we cant expect them to talk always our favourites. so dont compel. make the home a place for peace rest and restaurant for your husband to feel at ease., than making him run way from there. home is his castle where he is the king that is his feelings. nagging him over trivial issues will make him run away from the castle and look for shelter somewhere else. we cant blame them. when he feels at ease he willmake sure you are at peace. what makes you happy try todo it. accept yourself as yo are. . dont give self pity to you.rather give respect to you.lots of our todays character formation was done due to our previous experince so think deep anyprevious experince or your previous life disturbns you then remove those thoughts from you. we cannot change the wind but we can change our route. we have multiple duties we have duties of a wife, mothr, and as an individual we have duties towards the humanity.. A lady has the power to lift her family spirit or bring it down to rock bottom. write down your feeling about life, what makes you happy and what r yuour worries,. writing down means you r opening up , your oepning up means your worries and dremas r exposd so you can very well get a solution. it willhelp you to evaluate where you are exactly heading . make a list of your strengths as well as weaknesses. develop thestrengths and work on your weaknesses by setting goals, you can achieve antying by setting goals and workingon it. let it be your own behaviour, see the changeeds of yourman to you, your onestep ahead will make him put 2 steps towards you. you can be better than you have thought you were. set your personal goals as a mother, wife, andeven as a daughter in law. break them into small and work on it. oneday spent without - ve thoughts nagging is well enough to make you spend another few days. thus slowly you you r putting steps towards perfetion., a total woman,.dont forget a AWOMAN HAS A MAN IN IT. A LADY HAS A LAD IN IT. that means woman is always a part of man or man is a part of woman.. try and work it nmay not happen in one day it is a process slow but steady process for a better life,. a bright tomorrow more peaceful life and worthy living it. by giving we enrich our lives as well as others.. there is always two choices do you want to live your entire life in dispoointment, resentment, or do you want to live in peace and happiness and contentment. choice is yours. The journey from where your today and whre you want to be is abit tough but not impossible. Just remove the cloud from you and let the bright light of the sun fall on you .